Tea Talks: All Kinds of Love & Why It Matters....

There are many kinds of love in this world and this life. Everywhere you turn you see love. I regularly spend my day working at coffee shops, and when I look around, all I see is love. Whether it is a father being pulled by his son, to the cookie jar on the counter, or a girl holding a boy's hand as he pays for their tea, or two sisters laughing over a memory at their table, it's love.

R.M. Drake once said, "Don't be afraid of love, it's only a bit of magic." I believe this to be true. Love can sometimes be our lifeline. It keeps us all connected. This doesn't mean love is the only thing you can depend on, but it does give us something to reach out to. There are so many types of love. I've seen people desperately reaching out for only romantic love that they forget that there are so many other of kinds.

We don't have nice photos.

We don't have nice photos.

Family love is great. Hopefully, you have a family who loves you through good and bad, sometimes because they have no choice. My family fights relentlessly, but I can always ask them for help. Sometimes it's not always easy and it certainly doesn't always come without judgement, but their love is endless. People do say, "Blood is thicker than water," or sometimes even, "Blood is thicker than vodka." I happen to be partial to the latter because it says that the love from your family is stronger than the temptations of your downfalls. I would say that my siblings have helped save me from myself when I couldn't.

Goofs on a beach 

Goofs on a beach 

Friend love is a powerful love. This is the family you've chosen. A lot of times their love comes without judgement. These are the people who frequently become a second family. They become the people you are most likely to call when you have your heart broken or need a day of relaxation or to blow of some steam with a boxing class or a night of dancing. I just moved across the country from my family. I tend to go to my friends more than my family when I have a problem. I have more of them and they're more available. They help me by expecting me to stay on my own two feet.

Very Romeo and Juliet but no one killed themselves.

Very Romeo and Juliet but no one killed themselves.

Romantic love is a strong pull and the world teaches us that everything is going to be fine once we get it. "And they live happily ever after..." But that's not how love works. You are still you, they are still them and romantic love is not going to save you. They will hopefully be there to help you through things and support you but they will not save you. Don't search for anyone to save you. Only you will save you. That being said, I do believe romantic love can be great. I've had relationships where my significant other is my best friend, number one fan, and someone who truly brightens my day. I like to surround myself with people who lift me up (that goes for all kinds of love). The most important thing is that you have a brighter day as a result of your romantic love.

Me. Goofball and The City.

Me. Goofball and The City.

Self love is the most important love. You need to learn to love yourself. If you don't love yourself, then when someone else doesn't love you, it will crush you. Trust me when I say that you need less external validation when you have your own internal validation. A heartbreak will merely become a disappointment when you love yourself and know your boundaries, rather than a life changing soul crushing experience. Remember your virtues and who you are. Focus on yourself first. "The most important relationship you will have in life is with yourself."

At the end of it all, if you have any kind of love in your life, appreciate it. Feel grateful for it. Life is so fast and ever changing. You are born in one day and you die in one day. It only takes one day for those you love and who love you to be gone, so BE GRATEFUL, FEEL YOUR BLESSINGS, and APPRECIATE EVERY SECOND OF IT. I know some days are harder than others, and those are the days to reach out, get out, and remind yourself of what you have. What you have isn't your money, or a job, or things you own, it's the people in your life. It is your own strength. Get out of the world you've made in your own head, step into someone else's, and you'll remember that people care for you.

Venice Vibes

Venice Vibes

Venice CA vibes running through my life as my mind drifts to the meaning of fashion and other worldly adventures.