Deconstructed.

The Photos: I worked with photographer Kara Cooper to create a mini Look Book for Deconstructed Designs. Deconstructed Designs makes amazing body jewelry. The are like wearable art. My friend, Kelly Young, is the designer behind these amazing pieces and I had such an amazing time on set with them. It's always a fun shoot when you can listen to Beyonce and Shakira during it. Here are a few shots. 

 

On My Mind: I wish my eyes could take photos. If they could take a photo, I would have taken over 1,000 that day.

Moments are fleeting.  Nothing is everlasting and it may never repeat. It may never mean a thing and it could certainly be romanticized to the point where I ruin it all. When someone doesn't want something, they generally mean it. But I still regret what I said what I said about my feeling for him when I left the car. It was just to scare you off. So, we would just be left with photographs and the hope that your instinctive habit of obsession favors me, my laugh, my hair, the curves of my body, my touch,my kindness, my tenderness, my heart on my sleeve, my scent, my sense of humor, sense of self, and "mythical beauty". 

But, just like another photo I would have taken, it can never be because it never was... 


Home is Where the Succulents Are...

On The Outfit: I love really easy sundresses. I love casual sweater. I would explain all the reasons this outfit works but it's actually just comfortable. I threw this on so it's not about style. It's about easy pieces that fall together to make you look cute even on your off days.

On My Mind: Yesterday I was with a friend who asked me if I was going to write about him. I said no. The truth is that I write about people all the time. Today, I wanted to write about something that's been on my mind which is love and passion without any real strings. While I am not going to write about my friends I do want to write about two people whom we feel passionate about, Henry Miller and Anais Nin. They had the most passionate, romantic, and crazy relationship though they were both married. They knew what they had though. It was magic in some ways. They could be in love and crazy passionate towards each other without any attachment. Maybe that's how things stay crazy passionate and insanely in love. 

Here are a sample of their letters:

To Anais: Don't expect me to be sane anymore. Don't let's be sensible. It was a marriage at Louveciennes—you can't dispute it. I came away with pieces of you sticking to me; I am walking about, swimming, in an ocean of blood, your Andalusian blood, distilled and poisonous. Everything I do and say and think relates back to the marriage. I saw you as the mistress of your home, a Moor with a heavy face, a negress with a white body, eyes all over your skin, woman, woman, woman. I can't see how I can go on living away from you—these intermissions are death. How did it seem to you when Hugo came back? Was I still there? I can't picture you moving about with him as you did with me. Legs closed. Frailty. Sweet, treacherous acquiescence. Bird docility. You became a woman with me. I was almost terrified by it. You are not just thirty years old—you are a thousand years old....

....Anais, I only thought I loved you before; it was nothing like this certainty that's in me now. Was all this so wonderful only because it was brief and stolen? Were we acting for each other, to each other? Was I less I, or more I, and you less or more you? Is it madness to believe that this could go on? When and where would the drab moments begin? I study you so much to discover the possible flaws, the weak points, the danger zones. I don't find them—not any. That means I am in love, blind, blind. To be blind forever! (Now they're singing "Heaven and Ocean" from La Gioconda.)


Dress & Sweater: H&M Shoes: Soludos Crazy Hair: Natural

Dress & Sweater: H&M Shoes: Soludos Crazy Hair: Natural


Weekend Casual in Stripes.

On The Outfit: Wearing Stripes always reminds me of Paris. Here is a pretty casual outfit that is perfect for strolling along the streets. I wore this skirt and crop top combo with my trusted Vans because they are uber comfortable and make for a great walking shoe. Plus, it adds to the casual feel of the outfit. A bit of Los Angeles back home in New York.

On My Mind: My favorite book is "The Beautiful and Damned" by F. Scott Fitzgerald. I wanted to share some of my favorite quotes.

“Things are sweeter when they're lost. I know--because once I wanted something and got it. It was the only thing I ever wanted badly and when I got it it turned to dust in my hand.” 

“A woman should be able to kiss a man beautifully and romantically without any desire to be either his wife or his mistress.” 

“She was dazzling-- alight; it was agony to comprehend her beauty in a glance.” 

“She was incomprehensible, for, in her, soul and spirit were one - the beauty of her body was the essence of her soul. She was that unity sought for by philosophers through many centuries. In this outdoor waiting room of winds and stars she had been sitting for a hundred years, at peace in the contemplation of herself.”

“A sense of responsibility would spoil her. She's too pretty.” 

“There was one of his lonelinesses coming, one of those times when he walked the streets or sat, aimless and depressed, biting a pencil at his desk. It was a self-absorption with no comfort, a demand for expression with no outlet, a sense of time rushing by, ceaselessly and wastefully - assuaged only by that conviction that there was nothing to waste, because all efforts and attainments were equally valueless.” 

“Intelligence is a mere instrument of circumstances.” 

“Don't say 'wife.' I'm your mistress. Wife's such an ugly word. Your 'permanent mistress' is so much more tangible and desirable… .” 



Tea Talks: Make a Great First Impression

I've learned a few things in my 24 short years on this planet, and one of them is that first impressions really matter. I remember going in for my college interview knowing how important it was. I didn't realize that for the rest of my life, whether it is meetings with producers, meetings with brand sponsors, or just meeting new friends, that the first impression means everything. 

1. Confidence is Key.  The first impression is all about confidence. Remind yourself of what you have. Everyone has something that makes them special. Everyone has something that makes them worth a damn. Remember yours. Even if you don't believe it, tell yourself that you are likable. Get excited. Bring positive energy. Be the person that you would want to meet.

2. Engage with People. Don't over think it. Just go in a make a move, even if you have to inject yourself into a conversation and then apologize for interrupting and introduce yourself. I guarantee that if you bring along an interesting view point or something funny to the conversation, they will welcome you with open arms. Be yourself and allow people to hear your views and see who you are.

3. Power Handshake.  I learned this in my high school Economics class. Mr. Kleinbaum went around the room and shook all of our hands to test out if we'd impress anyone during an interview. It turns out I would, although to his disappointment, I never become a stock broker. The shake itself should be firm, but don't crush a person's hand. Then you are just a power playing asshole. Be sure to make eye contact with the person and smile. If you know their name be sure to say it with a "nice to meet you." Make it personal. Make it count. 

4. Start a Conversation. It can be as simple as a compliment to asking what they are drinking to asking why they came that night. But get the conversation and try to keep control of it and the flow of it. If it's a business event, keep it light, witty, and intelligent. If it's personal and making you think the person is cute, keep it flirtatious, witty, and intelligent. Either way, try to control the flow and the topics as much as possible. 

5. Don't Monopolize Anyone's Time. You aren't the only other person at this event or party, and chances are they want to meet other people are just talk to their friends. After you have a good, productive, and sweetly timed conversation, excuse yourself to say hi to someone or say to them, "I will see you in a bit. Enjoy the drink. I'm sure you have people to mingle with." I hate when someone takes up half of a party talking to me about the Giants game, when I'm just trying to go talk to that girl who I know is an art curator with a fascinating knowledge on Matisse. DO NOT BE THAT PERSON.

6. Take a Lap Around the Room Before You Leave. After you have made your way around the room once, come back around. Chances are that there are not only new people there but your "new friends" would love to hear about how much you "enjoyed hearing about their summer on Martha's Vineyard". Even more so, everyone remembers the person who remembers and introduces people. If you are talking to your new acquaintance and see someone new, introduce yourself and others. "Hi, I don't believe we met but I'm Rachael. Charles, here, and I were just talking about how great this place is. How do you know the host?" Now you have everyone talking!

7. Get Them Digits.  On your second trip around, ask for people's numbers or exchange business cards. Try to allows get their number, that way you are in control of making initial contact.  Then drop them an email or text saying, "Hey so-n-so, it was great to meet you at blah-blah-blah. I loved chatting about do-da-do-da-da. Let's maybe get together sometime  to talk more or I would love to meet about the possiblity of working together. Plain and simple.

People will remember you and also feel comfortable when you reach out to them because they will feel that you made a connection.